As a licensed psychotherapist treating women for love, sex and pornography addiction since 2006, I ask everyone the same question: what is it you really, really want? The answer varies, but BY FAR the #1 most commonly stated desire is clear: INTIMACY! To love and be loved in a way that is meaningful and lasts.
I also ask my clients what they are most afraid of, and guess what answer also rises to the top? INTIMACY!
This fear is warranted, because without intimacy skills, the risk is high for hurt, betrayal, and abuse in close relationships. Yet we all need connection, so intimacy avoidance is not sustainable.
In this talk, we will review foundational intimacy skills for women, the two biggest intimacy blockers, my top resources for learning more, and discuss my very best tool for how to "rewire" porn-conditioned fantasies.